{"id":51,"date":"2016-03-22T15:01:04","date_gmt":"2016-03-22T19:01:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/?p=51"},"modified":"2025-11-07T16:20:28","modified_gmt":"2025-11-07T21:20:28","slug":"3-not-counting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/2016\/03\/3-not-counting\/","title":{"rendered":"#4 Not Counting"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>HSM (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.hellosundaymorning.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hello Sunday Morning<\/a>) is doing the counting for me, but I am staying away from counting. It&#8217;s not one day at a time, it&#8217;s NOW and no thank you. I strongly feel that counting days and weeks can be a set up for failure. The 12-step model sets people up for a lifetime of wondering if they&#8217;re going to &#8220;relapse&#8221; so they never know for sure they&#8217;re truly successful until the day they die.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>I&#8217;m truly done drinking, so no need to count. When someone asks me &#8220;how long?&#8221; I just say, &#8220;Now is good. I&#8217;m a non-drinker now.&#8221; And another interesting thing I&#8217;ve noticed is that it&#8217;s only the people who are concerned with their own drinking that ask that question. It&#8217;s often the people who would like to see you fail so you can remain in their camp. That question is really not a question at all, it&#8217;s a bit of sabotage &#8211; it&#8217;s a statement that expects sacrifice, self-denial, and potential failure.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>Instead of counting days and weeks, I am counting all of the wonderful benefits of being a non-drinker, like money unspent, clarity, productivity, memory, health, enjoyment&#8230;<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>Not counting, and truly enjoyed my first alcohol free Thanksgiving in around 40 years. \ud83d\ude42<\/div>\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/2016\/03\/4-peeling-the-onion\/\">READ ON<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00a9\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/heidimayo.com\/\">heidimayo.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>HSM (Hello Sunday Morning) is doing the counting for me, but I am staying away from counting. It&#8217;s not one day at a time, it&#8217;s NOW and no thank you. I strongly feel that counting <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/2016\/03\/3-not-counting\/\">Read More &#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[15,20,8],"tags":[17,14,35,10,34],"class_list":["post-51","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-content","category-helpful-info","category-journal","tag-alcohol","tag-cessation","tag-counting","tag-ethanol","tag-one-day-at-a-time"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7kyf1-P","jetpack-related-posts":[],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":618,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51\/revisions\/618"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heidimayo.com\/spiritblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}